I often have discussions with clients and friends about the challenges of staying active. Injuries, work and family commitments get in the way of establishing a regular exercise regime for most of us.
I rarely feel like exercising when I wake up in the morning, but I generally feel happier and more energised afterwards. The tips I’m sharing below is how I stay in the habit of exercising, whether I feel motivated or not. Read More…
A few years ago, I was having a tough time with some confronting personal issues. My mother asked who could help and support me. I told her that I had some great friends, but they had their own issues and I didn’t want to trouble them.
Mum went on to give me a new perspective…
“When you help someone, do you feel good?”
“Yes I do”
“Have you ever thought that when you don’t allow someone help you, you are denying them that good feeling,”
I now have a new attitude towards accepting help when it’s offered. I gratefully accept!
I have shared this story with many friends and clients over the years, because accepting help can be challenging for all.
If you have difficulty asking for or accepting help, it can be worthwhile to explore your beliefs about receiving help.
Is it a feeling of being unworthy? The person offering help has already decided you are worthy and deserving in their eyes.
Are you a perfectionist that sees yourself as a failure if you ask for help? Read More…
A few weeks ago, I worked with a client who was struggling with procrastination. You know, that great thief of time.
She had a series of assessments she needed to hand in to complete her course; she frequently found herself being distracted and avoided getting them done. A few days after our session she contacted me to say she had already finished five, and was well on her way to completing the rest.
I often work with clients who feel stuck or blocked, who struggle with procrastination and avoid uncomfortable tasks. They sabotage their own ability because they don’t feel ready, or lack the confidence, energy, time or motivation to make that first move and then follow through.
This is a subject I feel somewhat of an expert on – there was a stage where the “pro” in procrastination could have referred to me. Here are some of the ideas and techniques I use to keep procrastination at bay.
Just start!
Above my desk I have a hand-embroidered sign that simply says “Start”.
This has been an invaluable reminder when it’s time to write another blog and I find myself sitting at my desk staring at a blinking cursor on a blank computer screen. To just type notes and develop ideas gives me a base to build my next article.
Sometimes the pathway or process to completion only comes to light after you get started. Read More…
The New Year is a great opportunity to set goals and achieve change. Whether it be to quit smoking, get fit, lose weight, write a novel, complete a degree or buy a house … success depends on our willingness to make change.
We might be willing to change on a conscious level but unwilling at a subconscious level, especially if the problem is a crutch we have come to rely on.
Once we are aware of and understand subconscious blocks, we can work on letting them go. It is difficult, but not impossible.
A while ago, I worked with a university student who came to see me when she was in the last semester of completing her degree. Previously she had been a diligent student but now found herself unmotivated, avoiding study, procrastinating about assignments and generally sabotaging her ability to complete her courses to graduate.
In her Kinesiology session we found that for the past few years her goal had been to complete her degree. When that goal was imminent, she began to sabotage her success because she feared life in the “real world” as a graduate. She subconsciously wanted to stay in the “safe world” of university. Read More…
